Quest for happiness...

I dont think we are saying contradictory things.

From the example you give - leaving home for a better future and swallowing the pain of leaving home - I dont call it 'sacrificing', happines, but rather being pragmatic - I have to leave home because thats how I can be happy afterwards...

I guess - I dont call leaving home as sacrificing 'happiness', because as you said - you might have to be away for - one yr, maybe 2?, 3? 5?...and sacrificing happiness - means that one is unhappy for all these years.

I am uncomfortable with this because if you have a feeling of 'unhappiness' all the time inside you, its very difficult to do great things, one does not settle down to what life has to offer in a new place - and is always craving for what one left behind home.

No - I would say, accept the fact that you have to leave home (pragmatism), and do the best to achieve what you want and believe in your karma...that how much effort you put you will reap all of it...

I guess for me - 'happiness' is not material good - but to be at 'peace with myself and my surroundings', to love what is there already and to be positive...

And that is why I said that 'a right decision' cannot be linked with unhappiness...it will go hand in hand with positive energy of happiness.

In a way we are saying the same thing. At the same time there is some confusion as to happiness and what it means to be happy.

Leaving home is a big sacrifice w.r.t. happiness because as they say home is where the heart is! But like you said one has to be pragmatic and sacrifice happiness for a better tomorrow.
Also you might be totally at peace with your surroundings when you are away from home. You might have better set of friends than what you had back home and be whole lot happier. But forever there will be a shadow on all your celebrations and moments of joy. The shadow of seperation, of not having your loved ones to share those moments with.

Being at peace is more a lack of emotions and feeling. You are at peace when you feel neither happiness nor sadness. It means your emotions have been unplugged. When you meditate you cut yourself off from the world and empty your brain. You can be at peace anywhere and in any situation. As far as being positive is concerned it has nothing to do with happiness. Often we need to be our positive best when surrounded by problems. A positive outlook often leads to happiness by making you stronger and more able to handle tough situations in life.

I am uncomfortable with this because if you have a feeling of 'unhappiness' all the time inside you, its very difficult to do great things, one does not settle down to what life has to offer in a new place - and is always craving for what one left behind home.

Finally like I said I think all great things in this world have come about as a direct result of people being unhappy and then channeling that unhappiness into action.
India is a free country because people were unhappy with their lot under the British and decided to do something about it. Recently democracy was restored in Nepal when angry and unhappy people channeled their negative emotions into action.

Remember the ultimate goal of unhappiness and sworrow is to bring joy, if you are positive and practical!


As Agatha Christie puts it:
“Most successes are unhappy. That's why they are successes - they have to reassure themselves about themselves by achieving something that the world will notice.”

For the time being...

READ THIS FIRST:

Azahar Machwe said...
Often taking the right step or making the correct decision involves sacrificing something... and at a personal level happiness is the thing easiest to sacrifice for things like stability and long term security.

11:34 PM


kalpalata said...
azahar machwe, you confuse me. How can that which is achieved at the cost of happiness be 'correct decision' or 'right step'?

I think it is more 'pragmatism' that makes us sacrifice happiness for the time being.

NOW READ THIS:

kalpalata its pretty simple.. There are many situations in life where our happiness lies in the way of making the correct decision.

Just a small example from my life: Say you get a good opportunity to work/study abroad which will improve your career prospects. This in turn will allow you to give your parents and future family an added level of comfort.
But you are unhappy about leaving home. Your happiness lies with staying at home with your family and friends.
Yet the right decision is to go out since that will make you a tougher individual and will be good for your overall growth.
Thus you sacrifice your happiness for what is right. And in the end by sacrificing your happiness for 4-5 years you not only become a new person but you also gain strength of mind and heart.

Reading the second line of your comment is bit confusing.. how do you define 'for the time being'?
is it 1 yr? 2 yrs? 5 yrs?

Because remember often great things are done not by just giving up things which make us happy 'for the time being' but by giving them up for a considerable amount of time.

And finally we don't know how much time god has given us with our loved ones... and how much time THEY have with us.
So some times 'for the time being' can mean forever.

Conspiracy Theory

Pramod Mahajan (an important leader in the opposition party) is dead.
He was shot around 2 weeks ago by his brother. He had been undergoing extensive surgery and treatments to try and save him.

Now the thing is... what if the Congress Party somehow managed to get his brother to kill him. His brother already had issues against Pramod Mahajan (or so they say!). What if Congress promised to get him out once he killed his brother (who was seen as one of the leading lights of BJP and often described as a master strategist).

For people with no background in Indian politics. There are only two major parties in India who can hope to hold the Central Govt. The Congress Party and Bhartiya Janta Party (BJP). Congress won the last election therefore BJP sits in the opposition.
Now Pramod Mahajan was the main person behind the coalition movement which bought BJP to power (as the major party in National Democratic Alliance (NDA) coalition in 1999.
But once Congress came to power in the last elections BJP as a party and opposing force was reduced in strength as its coalition fell apart.

Pramod Mahajan might have been the man to spin the magic again for the next election, for the BJP.
Even though it is very difficult to challenge Sonia Gandhi (leader of Congress Party) now the same cannot be said for her son in the years to come. Her son Rahul Gandhi is being touted as the future leader of Congress Party and definitely a future Prime Minister of India.

For Rahul Gandhi, Pramod Mahajan certainly would have been one of the major roadblocks on the road to becoming Prime Minister.

It is also surprising to see the fall of Pramod Mahajan happen at the same times as the dramatic exposure of Rahul Gandhi to the common people during the campaigning for the State elections in UP by the Congress Party.

Added Later

Comment:

Sorry to say this, but that is stretching it too far. But you could consider insiders, the likes of Arun Jaitley, Sushma Swaraj for thinking or wishing for Mahajan's death.
The first thing is who benefit from his death? Not congress as Congress also have the young and upcoming star in Rahul Gandhi. And Mahajan's was a backroom politics, or sort of. But if Mahajan is out, Jaitley could be the next man? I am not saying anything but just thinking aloud.

Don't be sorry! I don't mind free thinking. Thats why I posted this entry. Good thinking, but the only problem I see in your reasoning is that Mahajan was one of the key people to organise the NDA coalition and a central person within the party.

Why would BJP shoot itself in the foot ? As it is they don't have a dynamic leader to push against the Congress and now with Mahajan gone they are weaker than ever before!

Miss Insanity

i WANT you baby! says:
wanna tell me a secret?
Carrier Wave says:
me?
Carrier Wave says:
sure y not
Carrier Wave says:
beautiful gals freak me out
i WANT you baby! says:
y?

Carrier Wave says:
coz beauty goes straight to my heart bypassing the brain!

Why God? Why?

When you are having one of the worst days of your life (which you caused!) then most people wouldn't want to see something as sad as a documentary on Brothels of Kolkatta and the kids of the prostitutes.

It did change my day. Not because seeing people live in misery made me feel as if I should not crib about my problems. But because it proves that happiness can and does grow in the cracks of society.

A bit about the documentary here:
The title (if anyone is interested): Born Into The Brothels: Calcuttas Red Light Kids
Year: 2004 (year of filming 1998)
Won the Oscar for best documentary feature.
More info here!

Everyone should watch this. Its about this woman (quite young) who is a photographer by profession (not a social worker OR a teacher). She goes and lives in the red light district of Sonagachi in Calcutta for more than 2 years.
There she befriends the children of the prostitutes and in the process teaches them photography. She also gives them simple film based cameras to take pictures of their life and surroundings.
All the kids take so many pictures. And each picture screams out the same story.
The story of a fate pre-decided. The girls of prostitutes will enter the same 'line of work' because their relative or parents will sell them off. The boys will marry someone within the area and probably become their pimps.

But I am most impressed with the children. You wont find a more genuine bunch of kids anywhere else in the world. Kids who are practical about their fate. They know they will never get out of the hell that is their life. Yet they take to photography with as much enthusiasm as any bunch of kids. They are excited and have a sparkle in their eyes even as they wash dirty dishes with filthy water.

Oh the lady tries to get them out of the brothel all right... and get them into a boarding school. But no school will take them without an HIV test certificate. Imagine treating kids for HIV? It makes my head spin.
The good news is that they are all negative.
I smile!
They show a baby kitten playing.
I smile again.

For anyone who thinks they are having the most fucked up day of their life. Remember there is always hope and that if happiness can grow in the cracks of society it can surely grow in your cracked (or broken!) heart.

More about it:
The lady takes the photographs to New York (she is American). There she organizes an auction at Sothebys and an exhibition (where well fed and fit looking people come to peer at the misery of the kids).
All the money she collects goes right back to the kids. She also convinces some big shot photographer guy to come and work with the kids. The kids get their 10 minutes of fame.
There is this one kid who has talent. Maybe he will get a chance to get himself out of the red light area. But the problem is his mom's pimp burns her to death.
That forces him to say "there is nothing called 'hope' in my future". But there is hope. He goes to Amsterdam for a photo exhibition.

The end is sad. Out of the eight kids the lady gets admitted into schools only three stick on. In the five cases their parents pull them out of school probably to work in the same trade.
Misery multiplies.

Fight the good fight!

My life has never been simple. New challenges and opportunities all the time.
I have seen many things, done many things and had many things done to me.

Through it all I have sufferred a lot. But then I realised that there was a very easy way to defeat it all.
Just remove the emotions. Once you remove the emotions you remove the sufferring.
One needs to switch off the emotions in certain situations.
Switching off the emotions is not easy isn't it?
There is one way to do it.
Be patient. Be cool. Things are dynamic. They change. Wait for the right moment to bounce back.
Remove the frustration and remove the emotions.
:D

ACDM 2006

Yesterday I was under a lot of pressure.
Having slept only 1 hr the previous night I had to present a paper at my supervisors conference.
That too in the afternoon.
I managed to deliver a decent enough presentation and the general opinion was that it was good.
Thank the lords.

The Wheel goes backwards too!

Progress is often represented by a wheel. The wheel of course stands for movement.
The problem is that the movement can be in any direction.. even backwards.

India (with the Asoka chakra in the national flag) seems to have gone back in time when it comes to progress in thinking.
In the past we had great poets, thinkers, writers and dancers. Now we are reduced to copying things from the west. Regional language is almost dead with the upper segment of society (ones with the money!) prefering English language books (often unable to read any of the literary masterpieces written by the likes of Munshi Premchand).

In the past a semi nude girl was considered to be artistic. Something representing the ability of God to create beauty. Something to be celebrated. Then the wheel spun backwards and nudity became a taboo. Now it is being re-introduced but only to get the audiences. Showing the human body in all its glory has been reduced from an art form to softcore porn.

These days you can't even celebrate Valentines day or kiss openly in public without landing in deep shit. All this in the land of the Kamasutra.

Then people say all these acts are 'obscene' and not in our 'culture'. Those closed minded idiots don't know their culture since they never had the guts (or maybe were never allowed to) explore beyond what was told to them.

I just wonder how we managed to evolve into such an orthodox society after having such liberal and free thinking fore-fathers. What made us look inwards rather than reach out and grab our rightful place in the world stage.

Astro-crap!

Girls this is the kind of guy I am:

You are the kind of person who is afraid to voice your feelings openly and cannot express yourself or may be you are afraid of rejection. But once you have set your eyes on the girl of your dreams you pursue her and it may become an obsession with you. You are an intense and passionate lover.
You make woman of your dreams the happiest person on earth though still openly you may not declare undying love for her.

Brecon Beacons National Park

The Ghost (left: me) and The Darkness (right: Vikas) at Brecon Beacons National Park!

Clash of the Titans (L to R: Me, Prashant and Bhuvan).

Spaced out!

Another spectacular view.

Girls!

Love can Damage your health says:
hmmm u kno what u call a person who just smiles without reason
Arti says:
hahahaaaaaaaaa
Arti says:
Azahar's friend

Whatever does 'Azahar's friend' mean?
Does it mean that all my friends are crazy people?
Or that I keep all my friends in a happy mood?
:D
Some women sure do know how to confuse you (and to keep you in that state of general confusion for some length of time)!

Brecon Beacons National Park (Wales) (contd.)

(Panoramic shot I took using the photo stitch effect in my canon cam.)

Wales and Brecon Beacons!

Cleaning myself up under the waterfall in Wales.

Bridge over the River Severn

At Brecon Beacon National Park

Beach at Bude

Relaxing on the rocks


At Bude Beach


Waves!

A Question

My question to you:
What will you do when you know that the person you love deserves someone much better than you?

-Will you leave the person because you love them and can't see them going for someone like yourself?
-Will you change yourself where a change would mean something monumental. Something which you cannot do alone without support?

Or

-will you let things be as they are and do nothing?

What would be your choice?

The Road...

The M5 motorway (towards Exeter).


Some castle along the road.


Distant shoreline.


A wall..

Harland Lighthouse

The shipwreck of 'Johanna' (shipwrecked 31st December 1982)



Hartland Lighthouse


Life is a bed of rocks and water to drown yourself in.

Hartland Point

Towards Hartland Point - narrow roads!



From the Hartland Point Radar Station.


The MoD Hartland Point Radar Station


Towards Hartland Point Lighthouse

Dreamscapes along the Devon Coast!

Me and Rishi


Countryside of eternity


A house in the fog.


House on the borderland.

Atlantic Highway (A39)

On Good Friday I went along the Atlantic Highway (A39).

The Travellers:
Front Left: Bhuvan (Pilot)
Front Right: Azahar (Navigator)
Back Right: Rishi (Treasurer)
Back Left: Prashant (Catering)




Dreamscapes along the Devon Coast!