Thursday, November 02, 2006

Theoretical Models of Love



There are various ways in which two people fall in love with each other.
My research into this allowed me to develop two models for how a girl and boy fall for each other. There may be many others but this is what I came up with....

MODEL ONE: SLOW AND STEADY WINS THE RACE

MODEL TWO: STRIKE THE IRON WHILE IT'S HOT


SLOW AND STEADY WINS THE RACE (Figure 1)
This is more common that is why I call it MODEL ONE. In Figure 1 we can see that the Girl and Boy start out as strangers and over time they become friends and converge towards Intimacy. Maybe the Boy and Girl were childhood friends or met in college or even at a marriage! The convergence rate is usually slower and many factors can destroy the relation or stop it at a certain level of closeness.
But if this relation continues it will enter a period (blue region) where a long term permanent relation can be formed which may or may not end in marriage.
This period doesn't last forever though. Once it ends the relations usually diverge a bit and come to rest at a lower level of friendship.


STRIKE WHILE THE IRON IS HOT (Figure 2)
This kind of opportunity is based a bit on the luck of the Boy and the Girl. Usually the two are not that close but an EVENT (light green line) brings them closer, that too pretty rapidly. The closeness is much more intense in this case. Many things can trigger this kind of a situation but usually the triggering event is something quite drastic.
The response time is very very short and usually both the sides have to capitalize on the opportunity. The response time in this case is usually much less as compared to MODEL ONE. Also once the good time (blue shaded area) is over the relations diverge pretty rapidly.

Both the models are of course not the final word. The actual model of interaction can be a combination of either of the two models. For example the starting could be like MODEL ONE and the ending could be like MODEL TWO.


There are two other factors which can influence the shape of the 'Love Curves'.
The first one is, how keen (or desperate) the Boy and Girl are to fall in love (the Acceptance Factor). The second one is the Rate of Convergence (the slope) for the two curves. If the Rate of Convergence for Girl's curve (Cg) is different from the Rate of Convergence (Cb) for Boy's curve, it can lead to major issues.


If Cg == Cb
- Perfect situation both converge to same state almost at same time.

If Cg > Cb
- Girl will enter the blue zone quickly but the boy wont be ready... can lead to frustration on girls part.

If Cg < Cb
- Boy will enter the blue zone quickly but the girl wont be ready... this will of course lead to frustration on boys part.


:)
A.

Purpose of Life

A conversation with Miss S. Still waters run deep.

XYZ says:
not everything has to have a purpose

The First Light of Dawn says:
yet everything does....
things without purpose... die

XYZ says:
if you wanna look at it that way
it's just a point of view

The First Light of Dawn says:
or become invisible
what doesnt have an use.. tell me

XYZ says:
well, it's just a point of view
i could name you a million things, and you could say that all of them have purposes

The First Light of Dawn says:
ok name me one

XYZ says:
but it might not be what i think
umm.. i dunno..

The First Light of Dawn says:
i wont say whether it has a purpose or not

XYZ says:
well, i don't know. life?
yes, life
life might not even have a purpose

The First Light of Dawn says:
well.... i would disagree....
but then again
like u said
depends on point of view

XYZ says:
yup
exactly
i'm not sure if it has a meaning or not anyway

The First Light of Dawn says:
hmm if it doesnt then why do u exist...

XYZ says:
i dunno
to be here
why do i exist?
i'm not sure

The First Light of Dawn says:
well if u find the answer to that question u will know the purpose of life

What is the purpose of life?

Shakespeare said some men are born great, some achieve greatness and some have greatness thrust upon them.

Maybe its the same case with purpose.
Some are born with a purpose in life, some discover it and some have it imposed upon them by life.

Monday, October 30, 2006

Diwali 2006 Fire-crackers and Fun!

Pics of Diwali 2006 Firecrackers taken in my backyard. All friends having fun...
The pics taken by me using Canon S2-IS and long exposure...